/staff/articles/carolyn+hax/2009-12-04T17:00:00Z2009-12-04T17:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-12-04:/wp-dyn/content/discussion/2009/11/20/DI2009112003170.html?nav=rss_liveonline

2009-11-24T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-24:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/23/AR2009112303519.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

2009-11-24T01:50:46Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-24:/wp-srv/community/groups/announcement.html?wpBlogId=Blog:8fee6b9f-c24b-4ab4-bbad-99b96ab7ecde&plckController=Blog&plckScript=blogScript&plckElementId=blogDest&plckBlogPage=BlogViewPost&plckPostId=Blog%3a8fee6b9f-c24b-4ab4-bbad-99b96ab7ecdePost%3a3f07c55a-f6df-4226-bdff-6bd2b92add9b

From a reader: "My children live several hours away. I drive to see them for a weekend in the spring, fall and winter, and in the summer, they visit me for two weeks. "My daughter, 13, hardly keeps in touch. I've sent her text messages and e-mails to say hi, but I don't receive an answer. During my last visit this fall, she said my e-mails were long and boring. When I tried to ask her questions about her life, she said I'm being gay. "I asked why she was treating me this way, and she said I was trying to make her feel guilty. I said I wasn't trying to make her feel any way, but I wanted to know why she was being so disrespectful. She didn't want to talk about it. "I tell her that I love her no matter how she feels about me, and that whenever she's ready to talk to me about whatever, the door is open. "What do you think I should do at this point?" What advice would you give this father? (That is, after he calls her out for using "gay" as an insult. There's no adolescent pass for that.) 

2009-11-23T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-23:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/22/AR2009112201537.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

2009-11-22T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-22:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/20/AR2009112000272.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

2009-11-21T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-21:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/20/AR2009112003424.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

2009-11-20T17:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-20:/wp-dyn/content/discussion/2009/11/13/DI2009111303089.html?nav=rss_liveonline

2009-11-20T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-20:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/19/AR2009111903905.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Dear Carolyn:

2009-11-19T16:09:03Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-19:/wp-srv/community/groups/announcement.html?wpBlogId=Blog:8fee6b9f-c24b-4ab4-bbad-99b96ab7ecde&plckController=Blog&plckScript=blogScript&plckElementId=blogDest&plckBlogPage=BlogViewPost&plckPostId=Blog%3a8fee6b9f-c24b-4ab4-bbad-99b96ab7ecdePost%3a718ac6a7-2ff9-4bb2-8fb2-ad5ae59cd8bd

From a reader: "It has been 10 years since my wife let me make love to her, right after my daughter was born. My wife was violent. I had grounds for a divorce, but at the time I didn't know that."I kept thinking I was doing something wrong. I went to counseling, but she refused to come."Before our daughter we talked about my having a vasectomy, after one child. But I didn't do that right away. After three years of hell, I had the vasectomy, and slowly I got my wife back, except for any romance or sex. I am in my 40s. Should I leave her, because I can’t get any?"This is an extreme version of a not-uncommon complaint. Are the choices just "divorce" or "deal with it," or is there something else here?

2009-11-19T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-19:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/18/AR2009111803586.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

2009-11-18T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-18:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/17/AR2009111703615.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Dear Carolyn:

2009-11-17T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-17:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/16/AR2009111603646.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

2009-11-16T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-16:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/15/AR2009111502408.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

2009-11-16T04:30:52Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-16:/wp-srv/community/groups/announcement.html?wpBlogId=Blog:8fee6b9f-c24b-4ab4-bbad-99b96ab7ecde&plckController=Blog&plckScript=blogScript&plckElementId=blogDest&plckBlogPage=BlogViewPost&plckPostId=Blog%3a8fee6b9f-c24b-4ab4-bbad-99b96ab7ecdePost%3a74e5f451-fd78-42ea-9055-b01d01c7fc17

From the online chat last Friday, a reader asks, "Let's say someone (adopted long ago) found out that a half sibling wants to meet/get in touch/whatever. What is the incentive to meet this person? Is there an obligation when allowing a blood relative in your life? Is it hurtful to say to no? Are you missing something then?"I thought the original poster would benefit from everyone weighing in, so what are your thoughts?

2009-11-15T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-15:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/12/AR2009111211507.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Dear Carolyn:

2009-11-14T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-14:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/13/AR2009111303235.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

2009-11-13T17:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-13:/wp-dyn/content/discussion/2009/11/06/DI2009110603011.html?nav=rss_liveonline

2009-11-13T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-13:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/12/AR2009111210352.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Dear Carolyn:

2009-11-12T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-12:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/11/AR2009111125385.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

2009-11-11T05:00:00Ztag:www.washingtonpost.com,2009-11-11:/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/10/AR2009111018350.html?nav=rss_opinion/columns